The ‘Pre-Game’ of Dating
Monday, April 7th, 2008By Rion Williams Did you know that there is actually a ‘pre-game’ to the dating game? It’s the part where most guys fail with women and it happens right up front. It’s also the hardest thing to see unless you know what you’re looking for. With relational dynamics I like to deal with the ‘true’ relationships that exist; the ones that really matter while everyone else is focusing on superficial solutions. With dating and women there is now a pre-game. This pre-game is essentially a relational power struggle. It didn’t used to be necessary with our forefathers but it is now. Since beautiful women are wielding such leveraged social power and status, most men (socially) just don’t compare and are consistently thrown off because they are ignorant to what it really is. She can have any guy she wants in the room and you’re approaching her, you can now believe it IS a power game right upfront. And unless you ARE the social alpha male in the room, you’d better understand and apply relational dynamics or just truly not care. Unfortunately, for most guys who were brought up in this social society you do ‘care’ too much and little mind tricks just aren’t enough to change your entire physiology to be comfortable around this level of power and beauty. In order to win the pre-game and move on from there (where everything happens and consistently), you have to be equal or greater than her in that initial relational power game. Just because a mass consortium of women have greatly jumped up in Inner Character and Social Character power in the last 25 years, doesn’t mean that you should be any less of a man (despite that being the ironic trend). These women are looking for men who are their equal or greater in power. Guys who are comfortable in their own skin IN RELATION TO her own power and beauty; those are the guys who consistently have women chasing them and interested in them. Even if you’re not equal in social status but you can truly be comfortable in your own skin in relation to her, you’re light years ahead of other guys who are better looking and seemingly ‘better catches’ than you are. Why? Because she has to have someone who is at least equal in initial power or greater than her. He has to be rock-solid in who he is AROUND HER so that she can open up and ‘respond’ like she is supposed to (and waiting to do). Women are looking for ‘real men’. Isn’t it time you stepped up to the plate after knowing what you’re dealing with here? Your ‘inner game’ alone is not nearly enough. It has a power leverage ratio of 1:1. Her social power could be 100,000:1 because of her beauty and fame and the number of guys she could sleep with. You have to have more than ‘inner game’ or ‘personality’ to win that initial power game. Once you pass that initial power game by just ‘representing’ and ‘being’ that man who is truly her equal or greater (by being comfortable in your own skin around her highnessness), then the REAL GAME can begin. This initial power and character cannot be faked either because women are very intuitive and sensitive when it comes to the true yet hidden ‘power relationship’. Most teachers, dating coaches and seduction guru’s will teach you essentially how to ‘fake it’ til you make it. Unfortunately, most guys will never ‘make it’ because they don’t understand the root power that these DO represent (and neither do the teachers!). They don’t understand their relationship to that and therefore can’t harness ‘the power’. Your power lies primarily in your natural character. She doesn’t care about you or your personality when she first meets you, SHE DOESN’T. You have to showcase that you really are comfortable in your own skin (high natural character) around her. Later, your personality can come in a little bit to intrigue her more. As a man, naturally you ARE the stimulus and she is the mating response. This is the only way it works. Otherwise if the woman is the stimulus and you’re the response you’ll have the unfortunate reality of millions of families or the metaphor of the praying mantis female biting the head off the man after she mates. But it all really BEGINS when you are ALWAYS equal or greater to in relational power with any woman on earth. You can’t depend on their personality traits because that is always variable. You see, you actually have to BE that man of high character before, during and after your interaction with a woman. That’s when she knows she can trust you. And that’s where the ‘game’ begins. You have to have value to offer her. A woman’s intuition works against most men because they start getting nervous and intimidated by her good looks and social power or status. Even great catches like you may have a hard time being comfortable in your own skin around these beautiful women. So while guys continue to focus on pickup lines and body language techniques (acting or faking it), they’re missing the only thing that truly counts. Ironically you HAVE TO be comfortable in your own skin in relation to her leverage beauty and power. They expect you to. It’s up to you to take care of yourself and just be that man who can see the real woman inside. You can be the man who understands his relationship to her leveraged social power of beauty (which she resents), who can take her away from the great irony of social pressure. You can be the man who is ALWAYS the stimulus because you know your relationship to the root behavioral characteristics within any woman on earth. That is power and power you must have to consistently succeed. Rion Williams is one of the foremost experts in dating advice, personal power and relational dynamics. He is well-known within the seduction community itself. His work focuses on the regaining and improving of real character within frustrated men who do don’t want to ‘act’, use pick-up lines or techniques to get women. He teaches modern men how to truly be natural and comfortable in their own skin to consistently succeed with women, attraction and dating. You can sign up for his free eZines and find out more information at http://www.relationaldynamics.org He also has a free podcast at http://www.lifestyledatingradio.com Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com/?expert=Rion_Williams http://EzineArticles.com/?The-Pre-Game-of-Dating&id=362642 phentermine online no prescription purchase phentermine without a prescription buy phentermine with no doctor cheap phentermine no perscription